| In this chapter of the book I am going to talk about trusting your mate. I would
like to say this statement. In a relationship trust is something that must be earned. Now
saying that I will have to contradict myself by saying at first you must give trust to your
mate. See when you first meet someone you have nothing to base trust on. This is
where a leap of faith will have to occur. You will have to put you heart on the line
and take a chance that it will be broken. This will not be easy to do. All of us have
experienced a broken heart from time to time. We can not let this past experience
to determine whether the trust we give will be honored or not. I will go into that
more later in the chapter. I want you to think of trust like this, it is a gift you give
someone at first. If they really love you they will cherish and honor this gift. If they
don't then, they are not mean to have it. Unfortunately, the only way to find out whether they will honor it is to totally give it. When it comes to trust there is very little gray area. You either do or you don't. If you think your mate is cheating on you, that is not gray it is not trusting. It will show in your actions to them and response to them when they want to do something that don't involve you. If they see that you trust them totally, it will show that you are a secure person. You might say, Martin you have talked about in this book, you gave your total trust to her and she betrayed it, how can you say, to trust someone. Well, I searched my own feelings for a long time to answer this question. You have to. If I don't than I will put my next girlfriend through hell, because of what she did to me. Chances are I would be not able to keep a girl friend if I did not. Here is what I mean, I met a new girl friend and tell her how much she means to me, and how much I care for her, but when it came down to trusting her I couldn't then the rest really doesn't mean much. If I love her and care about her but am not willing to let her out of my sight, then I will loose her. I have herd it said that if you want to have a faithful mate you must not give them the chance to be tempted. Well, unfortunately they will be tempted weather you have them under lock and key or not. It is them that have to want to be faithful. Lets face it all of us come accorded moments when we could be strayed from the path. When I was with my girl friend, I had lots of opportunities to cheat on her. I am a out going person that is easy to talk to, so girls like talking to me, about their feelings and lives. This will put some of them very close to me. I didn't cheat on my girl friend, because of lack of opportunity. I didn't cheat on her, because she was the one I loved and wouldn't even think about doing anything that would hurt her. You might ask, Well, now that you know, she was cheating on you, don't you wish you would have taken some of those opportunities. My response is no, I am glad I acted the way I did and didn't stray from the path. Because all I would have done is, cheapen myself. Right now I can sleep at nights knowing that I was faithful and didn't betray the trust that was put into me. Does my girl friend sleep at night knowing what she did to me, most likely not.
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